1: Identification of the cause

In order to begin the process of resolving your conflict, you must identify it and make it clear to both parties. It is important to identify the effects of the cause for conflict on any party involved and differing points of view from the participants standpoint.

2: Look at the problem from a new point of view! - Chess game analogy.

If you have been the bystander looking on as two people are playing a game such as chess, it is often easier to see solutions to a problem from that point of view. Take a step back and look at the problem from an outsider’s viewpoint and see if you can analyze the problem from there.

3: Discuss resolutions

Discuss any options to the conflict which may benefit your situation. Carefully look for outside opinions without disclosing to others that the two of you are in conflict.

4: Find solutions to the problem together looking for ones you may not have thought about.

Pick some of the solutions you came up with together which you can both agree on.

5: Agreement and Commitment, Forgiveness and Pact, Romance.

You must agree at the end of your conflict on a solution to the problem. This begins with forgiving one another for any harsh words you may have thrown about. With practice you will begin finding ways to avoind name-calling and verbal degradation.

Commit to your solution together! It may be difficult to compromise at times, so you should be willing to make concessions and to pick your battles. Is it worth arguing about?

Agree, make a pact to not bring up the cause for the argument again, and begin the process of healing. If you are a romantic couple, you should seal the deal with at the very least a whole-hearted kiss.